I know people that say the following on a regular basis. Save the judgements for a moment and just listen to their rants.

No one cares how hard I work.

I can show up before everyone else. I can leave after everyone else. I can write longer emails. I can express more opinions in meetings. But, there will be no recognition of my efforts because they are not important.

No one cares that I hate my job.

I can tell my colleague I am leaving the company as soon as possible. I can complain to my boss that my assignments are not appropriate for my skill sets. I can criticize every policy my employer dictates. But, nothing will really change because my issues are not important.

No one cares if it was my idea.

I can remind everyone that organizing the meeting was my doing. I can broadcast a message that I was the one who got a project started. I can tell everyone throughout the day that several tasks are now compete due to my efforts. But, there won’t be any authentic thanks offered because my accomplishments are not important.

Had enough? Maybe you know people who talk this way as well. Might even be you I am describing.

I really don’t like hearing any of the above. That is not the way it’s supposed to work.

This is the way we all want our jobs to work.

People should know you work hard.

They should appreciate your commitment. And if you are not happy with how things are going at work you want to be able to tell everyone. The team should console you. And, for sure, if you were the one to think of a great idea you want the world to know. You want all parties to recognize it was you who thought of that awesome solution.

Turns out, unless you were to have a one person company, where you work is made up of many individuals besides yourself. And certainly no one denies that your work ethic, your feelings and your accomplishments are yours to own. But your efforts, complaints and contributions will only be recognized and valued in direct proportion to how much yoj acknowledge and empathize with your colleagues.

The lessons of maintaining an Empathic Workplace are clear in the area of reciprocity. You can not expect your hard work to be noticed if you do not recognize the considerable efforts of your coworkers. Your complaints will fall on deaf ears if you do not take heed of your teammate’s gripes. And there will be no applause for your brilliant suggestions if you do not go out of your way to praise the ideas raised by colleagues.

I have noticed, unfortunately, that the world does not revolve around me. The concept of being on a team is not new to me. And the notion that everyone is in pursuit of their own dreams is not a revelation either. But, improvisation and empathy training helped me understand I will have no satisfaction myself without helping others advance at the same time.

The skills we teach in our Empathic Workplace courses build up an individual and team’s ability to authentically communicate. This is how I have learned to recognize the effort, the emotions and the contributions of others, which in turns allows others to see mine. We would like to help you and your team as well.

I am improving my work life by continuing to enhance my empathic skills.

That’s an untrained heart.

NOTE: The article first appeared on EmpathicWorkplace.com